In which I critique my husband’s personality.
1. Pat’s birthday and our anniversary are around this time of year. Lately I’ve been thinking about how much Myers-Briggs helps me understand him. We’ve known each other for 14 years, been a couple for about 12, been married for 8. And only now, I’m getting to the point–with certain traits–where I realize, “This is just who you are. I’m not going to change it. I don’t need to change it.” (I’m a person with many pet peeves. Lucky Pat.)
So first of all:
INTJ is one of the two rarest of the MB personality types, which makes me suspicious whenever someone calls himself INTJ.
For the record, Pat took the official test for work (the type you actually have to pay for). He got the results and was like, “Okay, whatever,” as was I. At the time, neither of us knew anything about the MBTI. It wasn’t until several years later, when I started learning about Myers Briggs, that I looked back at his results, saw “INTJ” and thought, “Aha!”
So, just sayin’.
Here are some facts (or likely facts) about INTJs that I’ve come to accept:
Thanks for picking me, hon!
We both got a kick out of this one. I have no idea how scientific this is, but it’s fairly accurate as far as I can tell. Except that Pat’s “factual recall” is good. Aesthetic recall . . . yeah, no.
Fortunately, I’m never on the receiving end of the following trait (because of #2, above), nor is anyone in our immediate family. The rest of the world, be forewarned.
As an empathetic people-pleaser, I have trouble with this one. But I’m learning the value of not giving a care what people think.
Therefore, if we’re going to do something social, I usually need to plan it (even though I’m on the introverted side, too).
This isn’t really true, but kinda/ sorta true. And funny.
7. Finally, fortunately, Pat has found his career niche in software development and data science. No surprise there! He loves creating and mastering complex systems.
I found this chart recently. See the list for INTJs? Whaddya know?
Is there an INTJ in your life? Or has Myers Briggs helped you understand a significant other? And did you or he/she choose a career that matches your type according to the chart above? Do tell.