I’ve been reading . . .
1. Cassie’s post--what do you think about the idea of sex scarcity as the primary male motivator on a societal level? Meaning that, if we women give it up too easily, men, by and large, will devolve into oafish man-boys who while away their lives playing video games and viewing porn in their parents’ basements. (Cassie does not put it so bluntly, but I do.)
I find it fascinating that in the gospels there is not one mention of Jesus coming against immodesty, even though among his followers were prostitutes and the like. Jesus emphasized cleaning up the inside while the Pharisees were the ones preoccupied with cleaning up the outside. We must as ourselves: Which are we more like — Jesus or the Pharisees?
. . . .
We have gone [the Pharisees’] way when we judge others. It is easy to miss this area of pride because we may not express our judgments “arrogantly”; we may instead wrap them in compassionate-sounding words. Arrogance wrapped in concerned tones is deceiving. . . . We will think we are just making observations and feeling pity, when in fact, we are looking down on others from or lofty place of confident enlightenment. It is a high view of ourselves that allows us to condescend to and belittle others in our mind.
. . . .
[W]e will also imagine others are judging us. Consequently, we will find ourselves frequently being defensive. We assume that others will think lowly of us for some perceived inadequacy, so we offer unsolicited explanations and clarifications for us or our children. . . . If we live under fear of judgment, not only will we tend to be on the defensive, but whenever we are in a public setting where our children might be “watched,” we will put pressure on them.
The middle paragraph–I think I will live my whole life still working on that.
4. Skinny Girl 1 (not a book): So I resolved that the whole family would be off sugar for the month of January, birthdays excepted. Pat and I also decided that the whole family would be on the Perfect Health Diet for the month of January, to see if we noticed an improvement in the girls’ health and behavior.
Up until now, Girl 1’s diet consisted primarily of wheat and fruit and carrots–bread product with Nutella for breakfast, bread product with Nutella for lunch, pasta for dinner, with fruit and carrot sticks and Goldfish crackers on the side. I hoped that taking wheat out of the picture would whet her appetite for more nutritious food.
If Girl 1 doesn’t like what’s offered, she doesn’t eat. She now eats egg and banana pancakes (with lots of maple syrup), but other than that, her palate has not broadened.
I weighed her on Wednesday and found she had LOST a pound since last May. She’s now about 50″ tall and weighs only 48 pounds. I don’t know when the weight loss started, because I haven’t tracked it until now. Likely she lost weight when she had a stomach bug around Christmas. She went several days hardly eating and never quite got her appetite back. Also, a few months ago she decided she didn’t like milk and cheese; that can’t help.
So anyway, the girls are now off the Perfect Health Diet. I ordered pizza last night and made chocolate cupcakes this afternoon. And of course that led me to cheat on my diet, too. But I’ll be better tomorrow.
Eat, little girl, eat!
that kind of day–> every day –> I gained a lot of weight.
6. I got this book for Girl 1 for Christmas, and she’s off to a good start with it.
7. Perhaps I mentioned this already, but I’m reading the Ramona books with the girls. Sometimes I read aloud, sometimes I play the audiobook read by Stockard Channing. So much fun. The chapter in Ramona the Pest where Howie takes Ramona’s old stuffed bunny-turned-cat-toy to Show & Tell–hilarious! I read it aloud to the girls and laughed so hard I cried. (I may or may not have had a touch of PMS at the time.) The girls were fascinated and a little scared.
Happy weekend folks! I raise my second glass of cheap pinot noir in your honor! (Or I would, if it weren’t empty already.)